Let’s talk about money, baby! Crunching the numbers
I’ve been thinking quite a lot about this since I published my earlier “let’s talk about money” posts: it’s all very well …
Let’s talk about money baby! Accounting – further holes: large gifts
I’ve recently thought of a very significant further hole in the idea of spouses having individual accounts as well as communal family …
Let’s talk about money, baby! Accounting for our differences
In addition to the out and out bad character which I looked at in the other part to this post, these are some …
Let’s talk about money, baby! Character issues
Thinking about money, on one hand I can be extremely romantic! I will say about my husband: “Money doesn’t matter!” That is, …
Why I don’t care about your money – Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here It annoys me when someone drives up in a …
Why I don’t care about your money – Part 1
This is a wall post I recently borrowed from a Facebook friend to post on my own Facebook wall: “To all the …
Long time no post, awkwardness, community, middle-class churches, labour exploitation versus financial success
I’m so conscious that I have not posted for a few weeks now. I must confess that I am procrastinating a little! …
Alphabetical list of relationship aspects
Abuse Adultery Ambition Anger Attraction Better Married or Single? Boundaries Building an excellent foundation for your marriage Character Commitment Communication Dating Different …
An idea…
I’m sure that many readers will have heard, read, or watched the uploaded video of the incident between Amy Cooper and Christian …
UPDATED: A way forward for “Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie” 02 May 2020
02 May 2020I hope everyone is keeping well in these COVID-challenged times. I wanted to share a few further thoughts I have …
Why I have not been praying for my marriage
I’ve just gotten off the phone to a dear Aunty who is setting up a ministry for mature single women. Oh man, …
Late night ponderings: male colleagues, tube strangers and the friendzone
Oh Huggie-Wuggie, how I’ve missed you! Firstly, apologies in advance if this post is a whole heap of incoherent nonsense – I’ll …
Christmas Postings!
Well today has been Christmas Day 2018, and I have been somewhat determined to post a post today! But somehow the hours …
Why women should be the ones running away from the bouquet
Guys Run Away From Wedding Bouquet What happens when the groom throws the wedding bouquet 😂 Posted by Pretty 52 on Tuesday, …
Horror Stories for Halloween 4: More Kings and Queens
Here are a few more articles about potential horror stories in relationships. From Trophy wives to toxic wives: This article talks about …
Let’s talk about R.E.S.P.E.C.T!
OK, just a little disclaimer before I start this post. The title of this post is taken from the Aretha Franklin song, …
Statistically speaking…
So today, I was reading an article about cognitive biases. These are the errors of logic, judgement or reasoning which we are …
Updated 22nd July: The ever-growing, but definitive list of Essential Criteria for my husband
Addlog: ********** 22 July 2018 Someone who will pull his own weight domestically, without needing to be asked, begged or nagged ********** …
So I read some posts today!
PREAMBLE Well today I was reading some stories online about what people have experienced in their relationships. On one hand, these were …
“Doing the chasing”, versus mental and emotional health
I’ve been thinking a lot about mental health recently, both within and outside the topic of relationships. Thankfully God has blessed me …
In defence of essential criteria lists
Well yesterday I read an article which argues that it is unrealistic and impractical to have lists of essential criteria for your …
As with relationships, so with friendships – learning to be extremely fussy!
And so here we are at the point when I am finally asserting that when it comes to friendships, you have to …
Friendship: But we agreed!
I just spontaneously wanted to write this post to express some of the irks I feel about friendships. Before I jump into …
Social Justice: Remembering my Materialistic Youth
Well I said that I would challenge myself to make a start on this social justice blog before the end of this …
When faith dies
Let me start off by reassuring any readers that no, my faith has not died. And by the grace of God it …
Deep conditioning your marriage
I’ve recently been getting into looking after my natural afro hair. But I’m trying to find a quick, easy, inexpensive way of …
The Lie of Capitalism
I know what you might be thinking: “Tosin, what is a post about Capitalism doing on your Huggie-Wuggie blog?! Have you possibly …
Internet Dating: Postscript
I initially published this post back in 2012, then I unpublished it, for reasons which I have now completely forgotten… ————————————————————– A …
Hearts and Character
Well I have just written this post on my Bible blog, but I was feeling so riled and worked up about this …
The problem with “just leave”
Recently “Nigerian Facebook” (that is Facebook as used by people of Nigerian descent or association) has been alight with the story of …
The Character Characteristics
Well last night I wrote and published quite an angry post about unexciting aspects of male character that I would find hard …
Why it is so hard [for me] to find an outstanding spouse!
A little waffly preambleOh wow! I have not published any posts to this blog for months and months! In terms of actual …
Ignoring my Huggie-Wuggie?!
Well today I’ve got to admit that I was in two minds about whether to write a post here or not. On …
Short Story: Mr and Mrs “Married Three Years”
Pretending to be asleep, I watched my husband as he prepared for the day ahead of him. Still seething from last night’s argument, …
External Link: 15 Things Ambitious Girls Do A Little Bit Differently When They’re Dating
I randomly came across this post online, and on reading it immediately identified with the points made there. 15 Things Ambitious Girls …
What true care truly looks like
Yeah, it has been a bit of a while since I last wrote a post on either of my blogs. On one …
…But I was outstanding!
This is one of those (many, many) blog posts that occurred to me in that dreamy hinterland between sleep and wakefulness, where …
The Princess and the Prayer!
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** This post is really just about trying to find yet another creative way to thank the person who might have …
Church V Marriage part 2
You don’t genuinely care, about me, or God. You are just interested in adding some extra multicultural kudos to your prayerless gathering, …
How women make themselves cheap
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think that this post is most relevant for women who are single and looking, encouraging them to insist on …
A Business-Minded Spouse as a Business Investment
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** I think this post is most relevant for people who are single and ambitious. It provides a new way of …
Sexual Purity: More Thoughts
**********RELATIONSHIP RELEVANCE********** Once again this post concerns general sexual purity, so I believe that it is generally useful for everyone no matter …
My Personal Values
Here I’ve tried to list down all my own personal values regarding dating and relationships. This page is likely to change a …
Moving back to London?! Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here While I was in London, thankfully I did not …
What it means to be attractive Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here I used to beat myself up with these …
Whatever you want in marriage… Part 3
This is the third part to this post. The first is available here The second is available here Even if you are …
Whatever you want in marriage… Part 1
In this post, I am going to make quite a bold claim. I was thinking about this vaguely a few weeks ago. …
To be honest… Part 1
To be honest, as I write this post, I have to admit that I don’t have a general destination in mind or …
Anticipating the Pressure Points of your marriage
This is as usual a blog post that I have been thinking of for some time. I was thinking that in a …
Building a heavy-duty marriage Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first part is available here Following on from this, here are a few …
Excellent husband needed, not just wanted! Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here Well when the idea for last week’s post first …
Avoiding Mr Perfect
This is a blog post which might seem to say the opposite of what I usually say. However, by the grace of …
Legitimate self-concern versus “unconditional love” in marriage Part 2
This is the second part to an article posted last week Part 3 of this article is available here The three parts …
Are you better off married….or single? Part 1
Let me start off by quickly saying that if I could choose between having a brilliant marriage and having a brilliant life …
A husband equals…a glass ceiling? Part 4
This is the fourth part of this post. The first is available here The second is available here The third is available …
A husband equals…a glass ceiling? Part 3
This is the third part of this post. The first is available here The second is available here All parts of this …
Why the time before your marriage can be the most powerful part of your marriage
I am sure I have expressed these thoughts before on this blog, perhaps scattered through different blog posts. I believe that the …
Communication Issues – Continued
Well after writing last week’s post on communication, I was reflecting a bit and thinking that there might be lots more reasons …
Dating
In my posts, I refer a lot to “dating”. I often speak quite negatively about it. Here, I thought I would clarify …
My attitude to Internet Dating
This is a blog post that I’ve been thinking about writing for a long time. A number of people have advised me …
My dream Valentine’s Day!
Well anyone who has been following this blog at all will know that I have not posted here for a while. The …
Overview of Marriage Continued
OK, this is an addition that I’ve been meaning to post since I wrote the last post – overview of marriage. And …
Overview of Marriage Part 3
This is the third part to this post. The first is available here The second is available here So anyway, finally, a …
The Proverb of the Milk and the Cow Part 1
This post is now available here as a free ebook in a full variety of ebook formats. Today I am going to …
Embracing “The Wait” Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here More waiting: So the Wait for me can be …
What if I never get married?
This post concerns a very interesting question, one I have asked myself countless times over the years – what if I actually …
How modern life affects relationships Part 2
This is the second part to this post. The first is available here I always like people to know that I’m not …
Faith and Submission Part 1
OK, I’m supposed to be working on my business right now, but my business mind feels as if it has turned to …
Why am I so scared…of what I want?!
To my own great surprise, I have not produced many “Huggie-Wuggie” blog posts this week. I am surprised about this because possible …
